5 Essential Dating Tips For Everyone Dating An Introvert

One thing you must keep in mind when dating an introvert is to be patient. 

Kumari Rajnigandha
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When it comes to dating, you may seek out someone who’s similar to you in both personality and character. However, what happens when you’re an extrovert and they’re an introvert, or vice-versa? If you don’t understand the intricacies of each personality type, you may have more conflict in your relationship than is necessary. It is important to know the whims and quirks of your partner so as to help them in areas where they falter. Well, extroverts might find it challenging to date an introvert because of their tendencies to stay in and not socialise a lot. Extroverts might find themselves stuck in a sticky situation.

One thing extroverts must understand is that introverts need their own sweet time to energise. Do not make the mistake of taking it personally, don’t think that it’s about you. It’s just how introverts are. In order to be back in their element, they need some time away from everyone. Introverts also like to socialise but long social interactions can drain them pretty easily. So, it’s best to know how to date an introvert in order to avoid potential personality clashes. Here are the 5 essential dating tips for everyone dating an introvert.

Be Supportive

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It can be a great thing if an introvert and extrovert are dating. They can pretty well balance each other out. Well, introverts might not express it out loud but they do need support and assistance. Since introverts do not engage in small talk most of the time, they might even be reluctant to ask for help and support. You will need to extend your support as and when needed in order to keep the relationship balances. Out of innate nature, the introvert partner might not feel as comfortable to ask for help but it doesn't mean that they won’t like some.

If you go out of your way to help them, they’ll definitely feel grateful to you. Being supportive does not always mean that you have to say things. It can also mean you can just pay attention and listen to them intently.

Don’t Take Silence To Be Your Enemy


With an introvert partner, there will be a lot of moments filled with silences. You don’t need to think immediately that something is wrong in your relationship. With an introvert partner, there is going to be a lot of meaningful silences. Initially you might find it difficult to wrap your head around it but eventually you will understand that silences are not that bad after all. Eventually, you’ll even realise the importance of silences in keeping the relationship calm and stable. So don’t think of silence as your enemy rather choose to embrace silences.

Ask Them Questions When They Are Reluctant

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An introvert might not come up to you with the issues that they might be facing. An introvert needs to feel comfortable to open up to you. They don’t open up immediately like the extroverts. In the early stages of dating, this can feel pretty daunting but eventually the introvert partner will also share their emotions with you. In the initial stages of dating, it might feel like you have to dig out the details and information out of an introvert because of their reticent nature. Don’t worry, when you have allowed them enough space and time, they will themselves want to open up to you.

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Be Patient

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You ought to be patient especially in the early stages of dating with an introverted partner. The introvert partner might not want to hangout all the time that you feel super enthusiastic to. An introvert partner dislikes socialising every now and then. So don’t expect them to show up at your friend’s wedding and don’t expect them to show up at every family gathering of yours. Being patient will help you understand your introvert partner’s needs and preferences in a better way.

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Find Middle Ground

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This is not to say that you must do everything. If you are ready to take steps for your partner, you can certainly expect the same from your introverted partner. Both of you must figure out a sweet spot as how much socialising feels alright to both of you. Finding a middle ground that feels okay to both of you is really the key to sustaining an introvert-extrovert relationship.

Neither of you should feel overwhelmed or anxious and hence figuring out a pace that suits both of you shall be extremely beneficial. Relationships are never easy. You always need to strike a balance. When it comes to two different personalities coming together, it can be all the more demanding but it can be managed with a bit of patience and sincerity. You can also read the 6 signs to know that you have met the one.

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