Most people think that when a girl is in her late 20’s, then her biological clock is ticking. This puts a lot of pressure on the girls and they think that getting married is the right thing to do even if they aren’t ready to get married.
The thing that adds to this pressure is everyone around you getting married. Seeing all your friends tying the knot and leading a happy life with their husbands can make you feel alone and think that marriage is the right thing to do at this point of life.
However, something that is right for your friends doesn’t necessarily have to be right for you. If your friends are happy in their marriage, that means it is the right time for them but it doesn’t mean that it is also the right time for you. The right time for getting married is not a certain age but differs from person to person.
If you are planning to get married just because all your friends are getting hitched, then here are some reasons that it is a bad idea.
You Are Not Being True To Yourself
If you are getting married because everyone around you is, then surely your inner self knows that it’s the wrong thing to do. However, you convince yourself that this is what you need in life. You want to be ‘practical’ in life as said by everyone else but being practical in this situation means you are not true to yourself and you are going for something that you might regret later in life.
You Are Getting Manipulated By The Age Old Societal Norms
The times have changed and girls have their own personality as well as want to live on their own terms. However, if you are ready to get married just because you feel that all your friends are getting married, therefore, it is the right time to do so, then it just means that you are giving in to the pressures of society.
Instead, you have to learn to stand up for yourself and just follow what people think is right just because it has been followed since ancient times. Marrying for this reason just means that you are being manipulated by age-old beliefs which are not necessarily true.
You Might Regret It later
You must be thinking that if you are with the right person, then it will be the right decision. Although marrying Mr. Right is surely the most important thing but timing is equally important. If you are not ready to get married and do it anyway, then you might regret it and the marriage (Meaning behind Indian wedding rituals) will probably not be a happy one even if you are with the person you want to spend your whole life with.
You Probably Don’t Have A Financial Plan For The Wedding
Let’s face it, weddings are expensive. In India, more than being a joyous union of two souls, weddings are about show off and grandeur which needs a lot of money and obviously, financial planning (Masoom Minwala's guide to financial independence). However, if you are agreeing to get married just by seeing everyone else, then, it is probably okay to assume that you don't have your finances sorted out for the wedding and this is surely the most important thing to do before even getting engaged.
Marriage is a union of two people, however, even if one isn’t ready, then it’s not the right step in life. Therefore, you should only marry when you are ready and not because everyone else is getting married. For more such stories, stay tuned to HerZindagi!