Vicky Jain Complains About Being Referred As Ankita Lokhande's Husband, But Why Is It A Bad Thing?

Bigg Boss has always been known for drama and celebrity fights, the two pillars on which the boat of the reality TV show has been sailing for 17 years now. Its success is so huge that Bigg Boss in regional languages is also gaining popularity, but the contestants often come in the light to showcase their true faces, which often leaves the audience irked.

In last week’s episode, Vicky Jain was seen having a conversation with Ankita Lokhande. The conversation of the couple often runs in a loop where Lokhande complains about Jain not spending time with her and always talking about the game, and Jain argues that the reason why he has come on the show is to play the game.

In the middle of this conversation, Jain said that Lokhande was insecure, and he rather took it sportingly when people referred to her as ‘Ankita Lokhande’s husband’.

We could not understand why he had to take a detour in the middle of the conversation and bring this subject to the forefront. However, we would like to ask why is it a bad thing if the husband is known by his wife’s name.

Vicky Jain Complains About Being Referred As Ankita Lokhande's Husband

Image Courtesy: Instagram/ Ankita Lokhande

Jain told Lokhande that it used to bug him when his friends used to mock him and then called him Ankita Lokhande’s husband leaving the actor shocked. She asked him why he did not tell her about it sooner.

Jain said that it was not her problem to deal with and he got over it with time. He told her that being known as Ankita Lokhande’s husband was something he did not appreciate as he thought that his identity was lost. His friends who knew him for years now refer to him by his wife’s name.

During the ‘Weekend Ka Vaar’ episode with Salman Khan, one of the contestants in Bigg Boss 17 pointed out that Jain should have been proud of the fact that his spouse was famous, and she earned a name for herself.

We don’t know what bugged Jain more. Was it the mockery or an insinuated insult for him in the tone of his friends? Was he insecure about the fact that his wife was a bigger name than him? Jain says that he respects Lokhande’s efforts and what she has accomplished in her life, but while he was complaining, he made it sound like it was a struggle for him. He was trying to say that he was more focused on the game and Bigg Boss because he wanted people to know him rather than being known by his wife’s name.

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Why Husband Being Known By Wife’s Name Is A Bad Thing?

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For centuries, women have been changing their surnames after marriage so that they can be known by the name of the family their husbands belong to. From Ms, a prefix of a woman becomes Mrs to tell the world that she is married. Many times, she would be called Mrs Gupta, Mrs Malhotra, or Mrs XYZ. People around her won’t call her even by her name in a social gathering.

However, all this has been a part of the tradition and culture of India and abroad. It is one of the few things that patriarchy has bestowed upon us, and we continue to follow. But this tradition is only acceptable when a wife is known by her husband’s name. God forbid, if the tables are turned, it is a recipe for catastrophe in a marriage.

But why is it a bad thing? If a woman can take pride in being known by her husband’s name, so should her husband. Shouldn’t spouses, irrespective of gender, be proud of the success of their partners? It would not have been a struggle for Jain if he had been proud of being known as Lokhande’s husband, rather than saying that he dealt with it as if it was a problem.

Jain and Lokhande’s conversation also highlights how society thinks that they can hurt a man’s ego or demean him by referring to him by his wife’s name. It showcases how success, fame, and name give one partner an upper hand in the relationship. The person who earns more and has a bigger name gets to be more powerful in the marriage.

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How can we talk about equality in a marriage or relationship, when we can’t get over gender biases and power plays? While the reality TV show continues to be dramatic and entertaining, it leaves the audience learning that the ideal couple image we see on television or social media might not be real. We need to stop idealising celebrities because neither they nor their relationships are perfect.