5 Questions You Should STOP Asking Women Who Don’t Want Kids

While some women have the desire to enter motherhood, others have no yearning. For the longest time, women have been believed to have maternal instincts mainly because of our biological construct. However, nowhere does it bestow on us an inherent need or wantto have kids.

Working women are often career-shamed when they decide to not have children. While many feel that becoming a mother can interfere with their career advancement, it is not always the case. Many are just not ready to take up that role and honestly, there is nothing wrong with that either.

Women can have varied reasons for not wanting to have a child. However, should we as a society shame them for not taking up motherhood? NO. Holding the title 'mother' isn't the ultimate goal for every woman and we need to normalise this.

Here are five questions we need to stop asking women who don't want children.

1. Will You Not Feel Incomplete?

Who determines if one is complete, we ask? Women don't need to get married or have a baby just to feel complete. If a couple wishes to sign up for a child-free lifestyle, it is completely normal. A lot of women don't grow up with the idea ofhaving children. But over time they reach a stage where they feel complete without stepping into motherhood and that's how it is.

2. Aren’t You Worried About The Biological Clock?

The burden of the ticking biological clock has been hovering over us for years. The societal pressure of having kids before a certain age or it will be too late doesn't seem to disappear even today. However, it is for the woman to decide if she wishes to take the significant step.

3. Don’t You Like Kids?

Undeniably, having a baby is the biggest commitment you will make in your life. There is no hit and trial here and that can make it difficult for a woman to finally decide if she truly wants to take that route. This can take years and at times, women don't commit to it all their lifetime.

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4. Who Will Be Your Budhape Ka Sahaara? (Who will take care of you when you are old?)

Isn't it a snide remark to make? Altering a momentous decision like this one thinking of the potential perils of old age? If not promptly, one might think of it later in life but does that compel them to make a decision that they aren't up for? Many children today deny the responsibility of caregiving for their elderly parents, majorly because it requires a lot of funds and time.

Today, many choose to remain childless and have a new way of looking at elderly care. There are multiple ways that promise couples a support system for their later years.

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5. Aren’t You Too Selfish?

Many are questioned why they are unwilling to give birth when their mother did it too. But is the reasoning enough to cajole them into motherhood? Some women just know that they can’t become good mothers. If they realise that the new relationship will only weigh them down, why should they put themselves through it at all?

Also, the emotional and physical toll following pregnancy and then the birth is huge. You aren't selfish, career-oriented, or "too rational" if you don't want a child. Having a baby or not, only your opinion counts.

Women who don't rear a child continue to be labelled 'selfish' and 'too modern' by society. High time, we are all given the freedom of choice.