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  • Kumari Rajnigandha
  • Editorial, 18 Feb 2022, 19:06 IST

Resolving Conflicts Amicably With Your Partner

To resolve conflicts with your partner, inculcate the habit of listening attentively especially during stressful moments.
  • Kumari Rajnigandha
  • Editorial, 18 Feb 2022, 19:06 IST
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Relationships are never smooth sailing. From arguments to conflits,  every couple goes through enough rough patches in their relationship so much so as to start questioning the sanctity of it. So how do some couples actually manage to navigate through such testing times? Well, some couples know the art of resolving conflicts much better than others. Relationships need consistent nurturing, care and attention without which things can go downhill between you and your partner. Being able to resolve conflicts as soon as they occur is an essential relationship skill. It helps partners to diffuse the tension and conflict amongst couples.

When stressful situations knock on the door, you must never let your calmness go out of the window. Staying calm in such a situation goes a long way in keeping the conflict from escalating. So as to deal with conflicts you must be open to listening to your partner. Relationships can be healthy as long as you and your partner are able to solve conflicts and cope with diurnal stresses in a positive manner. We are here to help you out if you somehow find yourself in such a tight situation over and over again.. Here are the 5 ways to resolve conflicts with your partner amicably.

Never Say Always Or Never

 never say always

Arguments are a part and parcel of a relationship. While arguing with your partner, there’s one mistake you must never make. Sentences including the words ‘always’ and ‘never’ must be avoided at all costs. These sentences can do more harm to your relationship than you will realise. Sentences like ‘You never help me with cooking’ or ‘You are always criticising me.’  These statements shall only make your partner more defensive rather than solving things. Your partner will feel blamed and attacked if you say these sentences. A better way to say the same thing would be ‘I’d appreciate it if you helped me more with cooking’. 

Steer clear of such sentences that can trigger your partner. Try to develop a problem-solving approach rather than complaining and blaming your partner every single time. It will only deteriorate the quality of your relationship and not improve it. 

Stop Blaming Your Partner

blaming partner

Playing the blame game is another big mistake that most couples make. Instead of introspecting and analysing the situation objectively, couples start blaming each other endlessly. This goes on to make the situation even worse. Do not resort to blaming your partner every time a conflict arises. Understand that you don’t have to blame your partner so as to resolve things. Communicating in an appropriate manner becomes all the more imperative during such a stressful time. Rest assured that your partner will listen to you intently if you have stopped the blaming. Solving problems becomes easier when you have a partner who doesn’t behave like an adversary every time an argument happens.

Talk About How You Are Feeling

how you are feeling

During stressful times in your relationship, make sure that you let your partner know how you are feeling. If you are feeling upset or agitated for anything your partner has done, let your partner know. Don’t go passive aggressive on your partner, maybe your partner doesn’t even realise what they have done. Sharing how you feel instead of blaming or criticising is a better way to cope with such situations. Your partner is likely to behave in an empathetic manner if you share your feelings with your partner. Next time, you two get into an argument, tell your partner what you are going through.

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Really Listen To Your Partner’s Concerns

listen to partner

While arguing we are likely to get so engrossed in presenting our arguments that we might actually forget to listen to our partner. Listen to your partner attentively and make sure you are trying to understand their point of view with an open heart. Listen to your partner and the concerns that they are raising, make conscious efforts to understand their perspective. After all, you don’t wish to behave uncaring towards your partner.

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Complain Less

stop complaining

While it is easy to notice every little annoyance of your partner, it is important to notice and acknowledge all the good that your partner does for you. Don’t go on a rant and keep complaining about all the wrongs in your relationship. Acknowledge the things that are right in your relationship and appreciate them every once in a while. Try to focus on all the positive aspects of your relationship rather than the negative ones.

If you wish to share any tips for solving relationship conflicts, do let us know by commenting on our Facebook and Instagram page. 

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