Put Down The Phone: 5 Things Couples Should Never Google Immediately After An Argument

All of us have been in this situation. As soon as the argument ends, the door gets slammed, and an uncomfortable silence fills the room. You are sitting alone in the dark after an argument; your pulse is racing; your ego is bruised, and you find yourself staring at the glowing blue screen. 

After an argument, your phone is your only companion, and the urge to open a tab and unleash yur deepest, darkest thoughts to Google almost seems irresistible. 

5 Things Couples Should Never Google After An Argument

Here’s some friendly advice: Google is not a licensed relationship therapist. Searching the web while being angry is similar to pouring gasoline on a flicker of annoyance. To save your relationship, here are 5 things you should never Google after an argument. 

1. Is My Partner Toxic?

The internet loves the language of therapy. Lately, every human flaw has been upgraded to a major psychological red flag. Forgetting to reply to a text within ten minutes? "Gaslighting!" Wanting an hour of alone time after work? "Emotional stonewalling!"

While genuinely toxic people exist, post-fight Googling usually leads to mislabeling normal human mistakes with heavy psychiatric terms. Your partner being selfish, cranky, or defensive during a heated moment doesn't instantly make them toxic or a supervillain. 

2. What Are The Signs My Relationship Is Over?

One minute you are arguing over whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher; the next minute, you are staring at a person where romance has simply died down. Typing this question into a search engine is a trap in itself. The internet will gladly tell you about how your partner forgot to say good morning or sighed during a conversation, and how this is going to create a split between the two of you. Disagreements with a partner are not a sign of the end of a relationship. 

3. How To Make Partner Feel Guilty?

We get it. You feel wronged, and you want justice. More specifically, you want your partner to suffer the exact emotional consequences of being completely, undeniably wrong. However, searching for tactical emotional warfare- like "how to execute the silent treatment perfectly" or "passive-aggressive texts that make him regret everything"- will only destroy trust. Turning your relationship into a strategic chess match where one person has to "win" guarantees that both of you lose. 

4. Should I Break Up With Him/Her?

When you are upset, you want an absolute answer to relieve the discomfort. You might even find yourself taking an online quiz titled "Take this 5-question test to see if you should dump your partner today!" If you let a BuzzFeed-style quiz dictate your romantic fate, the algorithm is winning, not you. An automated quiz asking vague questions like "Does your partner ever breathe loudly?" will somehow conclude that you need to pack your bags right away. 

ALSO READ- Do You And Your Partner Never Argue? Expert Reveals Why Silence Can Be A Red Flag

5. Am I Overreacting?

Seeking external validation on whether your feelings are "legitimate" is a slippery slope. The internet doesn't know the history of your relationship and your inside jokes. Instead of getting a balanced perspective, typing this into a search engine will land you in places full of extreme opinions telling you that you are either a saint or completely unhinged. Your feelings are real, but asking strangers to measure them on a scale of 1 to 10 will only cause more chaos.

What To Do Instead Of Reaching For Your Phone

Next time a fight leaves you reaching for your phone, try this simple three-step protocol:

• Put the phone on Do Not Disturb: Lock it, drop it on the nightstand, and walk away.

• Drink a glass of water and take five deep breaths: Let your nervous system settle before drawing any conclusions.

• Sleep on it: Disagreements look entirely different in the light of day after a full night's sleep.

Talk to your partner, not the search engine. Your relationship deserves a real conversation, not an algorithmic diagnosis! 

Conclusion

At the end of the day, no search algorithm knows your partner's heart, your shared history, or the inside jokes that make your bond unique. Next time a fight leaves you reaching for your phone late at night, close the tabs, take a deep breath, and close your eyes. 

(Image Credits: Magnific)

Stay tuned to read more such stories on HerZindagi.