There are numerous things that society wants us to believe are not okay , and doing them makes us feel guilty or sorry. But these things are not necessarily a thing to be sorry about. Prioritizing ourselves especially when others are not harmed because of it, is not selfish, but it implies that we care about ourselves. Loving ourselves should not be apologized for.
Here is a list of things that people would like us to believe are not okay, but are perfectly OK and require no apology.
It may be difficult not to feel bad when we don't give someone what they want, but there comes a time when we must assert ourselves and stand our ground. Saying no to things you can't or don't want to do helps you establish healthy boundaries, and it's certainly nothing to be sorry for.
Because if you say yes to things only to make other people happy, you may come to regret your actions, which is not a good thing. You deserve to be the most important person in your life. Your desires and needs should not have to take second place to those of others.
Distancing Ourself From Toxic People/ Situation
Do you have someone in your life who always comes to you with their problem, regardless of whether or not you have the mental space to listen to them? Do they try to entrap you in their pointless drama on a regular basis? If this is the case, you've probably wanted to tell this individual you're tired of listening to their problems and have been attempting to keep your distance. Perhaps it's past time for you to do so guilt-free.
Getting caught up in another person's problems can be emotionally exhausting so you don't have to apologize for wanting some peace by not getting involved in their things. If you believe the person needs someone to listen to their difficulties on a regular basis, you can refer them to a medical professional.
If you aren't a therapist, continuously listening to other people's problems may not be healthy for your own mental health. Remember, if you choose to distance yourself from such people (it could be your partner, friend, family), you don't owe anyone any explanation.
Nobody should ever have to apologize for being successful. The success could be promotion, scoring highest marks, etc. These successes should be celebrated and not feel like a thing to apologize for. Yet there will always be some people who will try to make you feel guilty about them. They will try to make you feel that you don't deserve the big win. But you shouldn't believe them. If you have reached that place, you know how much effort you have put to reach there. You worked hard to make something of yourself. Do not give anybody the satisfaction of telling you that you do not deserve it. Just be proud of your accomplishments and shine like a queen.
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Asking For Help
You have to understand that nobody has all the answers in life and it's normal for everybody to take some help from outside. When the time comes, don't be afraid to ask for help from others. Do not feel bad about it and also don't let them make you feel bad for it. Never let anyone treat you like an unbearable burden for just asking for their help when you really need it.
Wanting To Be Happy
The society will try to convince you that there are not many ways to do things correctly, but you do not have to believe them. Do things the way that makes you feel happy. And don't ever apologize for just wanting to be happy.
You don't owe anyone an apology or an explanation for choosing to be happy, whether it's chasing your aspirations, taking care of your needs, wearing a lot of cosmetics, dressing up your way, or anything else. Remember, nobody has the right to ask you to change. Do not let anybody's judgememt or negativity stop you from doing what you love and pursuing your true passions.
You are the exclusive owner of your happiness, and no one else can claim it. Live your life to the fullest without feeling guilty for failing to meet society's excessive expectations. You only have one life to live, so make the most of it.
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